Levitation and Pearls, Love and Motherhood

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Something happened in that room, in the white house, tucked inside the orange grove. There was a low table, shaped to look like a giant pumpkin, where my seven-year old body sat. My toes were deep in olive-green shag carpet, as exotic zoo animals looked on from my bedroom wallpaper. There, I punched away at the manual typewriter before me – caps lock, engaged – writing the story of the miniature mermaid caught in a jar. The title: “A SINGLE PEARL.”

There was no delete key. I knew not of white-out. No, it was a full-on, forward-motion, metal-and-ink, telling of the evil man who trapped a mermaid, and her inevitable and clever escape. Words found their way from my imagination to silver keys that clanked black ink on textured paper. Enraptured by the rapid impressions of letters to page, I was unswerving in my mission with the Muse.

The experience, so visceral, that I can still recall the unusual sensation of hovering above my chair, as if I were levitating. A tingling lightness coursed through my being as I typed. Each tapped key punctuating the perfection of that moment. All was aligned and right. And though the sense of floating out of my pumpkin table chair was a little ‘other-worldly’, it felt refreshingly familiar and quite real. This. This was it. This was good stuff.

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Even though my mom was busy with three children under the age of eight, she took notice of my writing and gifted me a legal-sized accounting book as a journal. My entries began in 1982, with sporadic spells of prolific chronicling and expansive gaps of silence. By 1995 I was 21 and writing with much more frequency, eventually signing off on the last page of my beloved journal, gifted to me thirteen years prior.

Today, I have storage bins full of the hardbound journals that followed over the next fifteen years. Long before the internet, it was just me with pen and paper. My journals were my touchstones. They were often collaged with random photos on the cover, filled with sketches, sometimes holding pages pressed with wildflowers or feathers. These books were markers of an era. My archives.

By my late thirties, I’d warmed to computers and made friends with technology. I especially saw the value of the internet as it connected me to a world that was so distant from the remote Hawaiian island where I lived. Based on the premise that if you do something for 40 days in a row it creates a habit, I decided to commit myself to writing in the public sphere on a blog I titled “For the Archives.”

I was a single mother, raising a six-year old boy on my own, facing the challenges of rent, groceries, work, loneliness, and downright overwhelm. In the midst of it all, I was trying to remember, that one day, I may look back and wish I’d had more appreciation for all the messiness of life with love and motherhood.

Still, I wondered if it was worth my while to write, publicly, about the experience of sorting through my junk drawer. What I concluded was that if a junk drawer was what I had to work with, I might as well try to glean some beauty, seek some metaphors, and share it. So I wrote about ordinary details, then tried to see them in new light. After 40 days of posting, I didn’t want to stop.

That was over three years ago. Since then, nearly 750 posts have been written to the Archives. My son is close to turning ten. Now, I even have a husband.

The truth is, despite the challenges of that first year of blogging on the Archives, it was a precious time. I’m grateful it’s recorded. From broken hot water heaters, to heartbreak, to Lego action figures, I followed some kind of thread. As I felt my way through the unknown, looking closely at the most mundane helped me to find sparks of the profound.

I’ve combed the Archives from that first year and created a collection of prose, poetry and photography that chronicle my experiences during that time, as a woman, a mother, and an artist. Volume 1: Love and Motherhood, is the first in a series that is now available in the Kindle store on Amazon. If you’ve enjoyed reading the Archives, this compilation distills some of the best of that initial year.

I look back in time at my seven-year old self in my bedroom at the pumpkin table, hovering above green shag. I wonder at that feeling, sparked by the experience of imagination moving into letters, forming into words, and then tapping on to a page. What did I know then?

And what do I know now?

That I love a good story. That I want to remember the magic that weaves through all the daily details. That I wish for all our greatest dreams to come true.

We all have our pearls. This book is one of mine.

I hope you enjoy!

For those without a Kindle, you can still read the book by downloading a free Amazon app that lets you read on your Mac or PC, your phone, your tablet, or even your web-browser.

Here’s the link: http://www.amazon.com/gp/feature.html?ie=UTF8&docId=1000493771

Drop In’s and Wipe Out’s

Ooooh!

My nine-year old’s feet are out from under him, his rib cage knocking against the plywood of the skate ramp. I quickly do the mother scan for severe damage, and when he pops up and flips his skateboard back to upright with his foot, I know all limbs are intact.

“Good!” I call towards him, as he glances sideways at me from under the bulk of his helmet.

I have precious positioning here today. He’s fresh enough that he’s not minding his mom sitting ramp-side on a blanket, as he practices his ‘drop in’s’. In fact, he wanted me to come so he could show me his latest move. And this afternoon, I have particular advantage, as we are in a rare window with the entire skatepark to ourselves. No fellow skaters to impress.

My “good” comment is not an attempt to be the perpetually positive parent, shouting words of encouragement. But I can tell Jeb is suspect. He just wiped out, what do I mean, “good?”

“I know you wrecked there, but it was because you tried something different. I saw that. That’s good. You took a risk.”

He does not reply but body language says all. He’ll take that as an attaboy. He goes back to the top of the ramp and positions the board for the 56th time, to drop in and skate the slope down to the other side.

He can execute the drop in, no problem, it’s the follow-up – what to do when momentum forces him to the top of the ramp on the other side – that’s tripping him up. I know nothing of skateboarding (except that Danny Way’s documentary “Waiting for Lightening”, about jumping the Great Wall of China on a skateboard, was pretty amazing). No, my hot tips are not at all helpful in the technical realm. I’m a writer, not a skater, and everything is metaphors.

I hear myself laud the merits of taking risks and think of my own proverbial drop in’s. Within days of publishing my upcoming book, I’m trying new moves and attempting to maneuver with grace. There may be some wipe outs, I’ll wear a helmet, but at least I’m skating into fresh territory.

Jeb continues with rushing wheels rolling down the slope toward a finish he hasn’t quite yet mastered. Time and again he tries different variations on the follow-up. Nothing works completely, but I can see he’s feeling his way through the process.

In my excitement, I lose my cool-status and overstep into parental geekdom. I suggest finding some videos online that show drop in’s, maybe even some in slow motion with step-by-step demonstrations.

“Not everything is online, mom.” His tone isn’t disrespectful, but it’s obvious I’ve made a parental faux pas.

I’m laughing to myself because, of course, I don’t think the answer to all can be found on the internet.

Maybe I’m just overzealous. Wanting Jeb to have all the tools needed to achieve an end result. In my enthusiasm I forgot. The real juice is in the process of discovery. Wipe outs and failed executions, included.

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courtesy of Elia Scudiero

Transformational Harvest

It’s harvest time at the outdoor shower.

For any of you following the Archives, you may recall that our family has been curiously watching the unfolding process of the dragonfruit in our backyard (see a chronicled play-by-play here). And since this plant has adhered itself to the walls of the outdoor shower, we’ve been treated to a daily accounting of its progress while we soap up and stare.

It’s been an amazing transformation, that began with this

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Soon blooming into this

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And, eventually, ripening to this

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I realize that for the last forty years of my life, I’ve been nourished at the kitchen table, daily, through the magnificent metamorphosis of seed to fruit. A wonder I clearly take for granted.

In this instance, food is growing in the shower. I observe its changes everyday, intrigued.

And who couldn’t be enamored? This “Queen of the Night” is just so darn dramatic in her ripening.

I mean, look. From this

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to this

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Wow…