November 4, 2010

Jeb woke in the middle of the night asking to crawl into my bed.  In the morning I wondered what woke him.  He told me that he had a nightmare about a cobra snake that was chasing both of us.  With a smirk he said, “you were crying and screaming, Mom…but I wasn’t.”

“Oh, really…”  I smiled too.  “Do you remember the story I told you of my encounter with a cobra snake in India?”

He doesn’t, so I proceed to recount my reptilian initiation into the land of saints and sadhus while Jeb sips his smoothie.

I tell him how I’d been traveling in India alone and taken a Trekker to Rishikesh.  As soon as the driver stopped to let passengers out, I felt a nudge on my arm.  I looked down to see a basket pressing into me and inside was a snake slowly moving beneath coins and bills.  A woman was holding the basket and she bumped it into my arm again, further agitating the snake as she hissed at me, “Cobra!”  All of the Indians in the Trekker tossed coins in her basket and I did as well.

Jeb liked the story.  Though he went on to discuss the potentials of having a cobra as a pet – once it was trained, of course.

Without realizing it, I was recounting my snake tale to Jeb while wearing the shirt I’d had tailor-made in Mussoorie on that very trip.  I had spent 8 days in that little-known hill station before heading for Rishikesh.  I’d walked for miles in Mussoorie, exploring the narrow streets that led up and down rolling terrain – the foothills of the Himalayas.

Tailor-made. photo by Jessica Dofflemyer

After dropping Jeb at school, my shirt and I walked the outer rim of Crater Hill.  The sky was overcast and the winds whipped off the ocean streaming up the asphalt corridor that  leads to the hilltop.  The gusts, the chill, the shirt, the hills.  India was in the air.

India still shapes me, even though I left that land nine years ago.  There, I was lost, found, abandoned and embraced.  Here, that place still bears gifts to me:  my son, a lover, stories, saints.

India mysteriously weaves through my life.  Challenging me to be stronger.  Calling me to trust more deeply.  Asking me to love more truly.  I may never return there but I feel it in the wind.  Sense its essence in the fabric of my shirt.

November 3, 2010

Today I met an Oliver.  And whenever I meet someone with this name I pay attention.

The name gained significance when I was 20 years old and living in Pacific Beach, going to school and living with my best friend.  A bit boy crazy, young, and kind of silly, we created fictitious boyfriends for ourselves, choosing names that we thought were fitting for the kind of man best suited to each of us.  She was convinced that my soul mate was an Oliver.  I was certain her heart’s companion was a Luke.

Sometimes we would reference these imaginary men.  For instance I may be leaving the house on my bike and casually, with all seriousness, say to my friend as I headed out the door, “See you later…I’m heading down to the beach to watch Oliver surf.  Come by later and see the sunset with us!”
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November 2, 2010

I finally looked at the calendar to see how many days in I am with this 40 day blog promise:  post something every day for 40 days.


For me, with anything creative I need to walk a fine line of solid discipline and loose expectation.  Hence, I began a 40 day writing commitment, noted it in my calendar, then promptly forgot the dates.

I really don’t know exactly what it is I’m doing here.  Questions abound.  But I have come to this WordPress screen every day for the past month.

photo by Jessica Dofflemyer

I look to a bookshelf by my desk and see the titles which reveal a minute reflection of just some of the threads I follow.  Plenty of books on writing – some of which I’ve read, others just a scan.

However small this gesture, showing up here each day is some way to make an idea tangible.  And in doing so, I watch the questions arise and simply smile.

This Rilke poem was shown to me by Kim Stafford.  Reading it just makes me take a big sigh and relax…

Be patient toward
all that is unresolved
in your heart

Try to love the questions themselves
like locked rooms
and like books written
in a very foreign tongue.
Do not seek now the
answers, which cannot
be given to you because
you would not be able
to live them.

And the point is, to live everything.
Live the questions now.

…perhaps you will
then gradually,
without noticing it,
live along
some distant day
into the answer….

Rainer Maria Rilke