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Head and Heart

This past Sunday, somewhere between PB&J sandwiches and Jeb’s book report for the Boxcar Children’s “Surprise Island” (great read, by the way) I found a little time with science.

My life seems to support mere snippets of adult-time reading.  Random paragraphs imbibed after throwing the clothes in the wash but before I start dinner.  Needless to say this communication to you will be no dissertation (not even as thorough as a book report).  I work in threads here in the Archives and this is yesterday’s weave beside the fruit salad.

Two different sources.  Two different body locations.  Head and heart.  The theme:  bridging.

Never been too good at math, but Heart Math, maybe…  There is a fascinating non-profit called The Heart Math Institute that studies the links between the heart and mind.  Their mission:  “…helping people establish heart-based living and global coherence.”  Their angle: use science and technology to integrate and use the intelligence of the heart in all aspects of our lives.

What they’ve found so far is that the heart has a mind of its own.  Despite what I was taught in school – that all messages from the brain epicenter command the rest of our body – what we’ve got going on internally is no one-way street.  Studies have shown that the heart communicates with and affects the brain.  It actually has its own intrinsic nervous system, which acts independently of the brain.  Check out the cardiac ganglia below (cells that make up a kind of ‘brain’ material), which serve to process information and transmit it to the body.

photo courtesy of The Heart Math Institute

Seems the inner physical world is not the only place affected.  Using an electrocardiogram (ECG) to measure electrical fields emitted from the body, scientists have found that the field generated by the heart is 60 times greater in strength than that of the brain.  And with a SQUID-based manometer (wonder what that looks like), they’ve measured the heart’s magnetic field as being 5000 times greater than the brain’s.

Further research has discovered that the energetic field of the heart affects brain waves, can be influenced by emotion, and that the fields between the brain and heart can be synchronized.  These fields have shown to be synchronized between people, too.

photo courtesy of The Heart Math Institute

What does all of this mean?  For me it’s science explaining what I think many of us already ‘know’ in our hearts.  We’ve felt these connections.  We know the sense of how it feels when everything aligns in a moment – with ourselves, our world and each other.  “Follow your heart” is not just for blissful utopia seekers.  It seems to be a fundamental part of how we live.

This doesn’t diminish the power of the brain.  Somewhere after the almond butter but before the book report illustrations, I grabbed a few paragraphs from Janet Conner’s “Writing Down Your Soul.” It references work from a book by Dr. James Pennebaker,  “Opening Up”, which outlines studies done on the affects of expressive writing on the brain.  Pennebaker concluded that what was termed “confessional writing” effects the corpus colosum, a portion that bridges the left and right brain.  This kind of deep writing can produce a meditative state, inducing theta waves that trigger more whole brain functioning.

This state can be therapeutic, especially when healing trauma.  What is suggested is that the language aspect that is centered in the left brain can express the negative emotions that are primarily localized in the right brain.  The writing can actually release old patterns established by neural pathways, as the two halves of the brain communicate and converge.

In fact, a study even measured particular words that when written seemed to have the greatest positive impact upon the writer.  When expressing painful experiences, those that wrote from a place of reflection and insight and incorporated words like “understand”, “realize” or “know” seemed to benefit the most.  Pennebaker’s conclusion:  “Writing moves us to resolution.”

Simple snippets that remind me that the connections are there.  Always have been.  We feel it and know (there’s that power word).  Science studies it and explains the details.

I come here to the Archives because I feel.  I write to try to capture the essence of that feeling and share.  I hope that someone reading may be inspired to reach into their interior.  Express it any way they feel.  To let that heart of theirs beam its electro-magnetic field around the world and beyond.  To send signals to the brain that bring syncopation and plenty of happy thoughts.  To forge new pathways and travel on mental landscapes yet unexplored.

May we all fulfill this vessel’s greatest potential.  And enjoy the process of conveying the experience to one another.

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TLA – True Love Always

“You’re a lover, Jess.”

My friend states the words simply.  As factually as she would say “The garden has plenty of basil.  Go pick some.”

Somehow her neutral tone releases my heart.  As if my whole life it has been slightly holding a breath and then finally is allowed to exhale.  I think I’ve always suspected my propensity to love was an innate downfall.  A fatal flaw that weakened me, leaving me at the mercy of indecisive hearts and ill-fated circumstance.

Stirring the bubbling pot of my own soupy center, I reflect on the history of its beats.  Those early years when it quickened for the first time.  Those impressionable days around the tether ball in first grade.  When the boy with the cowlick and striped t-shirts would sometimes bring me rings with different birthstones.  (Many years later I learned he stole them from his sister’s jewelry box and left peanuts in their place).

Imprinted forever is my first wooing faux pas.  Maybe a bit advanced for my age, I was a big fan of playground kissing tag.  I’d often feign tiredness in order to let that select Ring Boy catch me and the thrill of lips, quick and innocent on my face.  And then one day I decided to be true.  Catch him up myself, and swiftly plant a kiss of my own.  No words were spoken but his look told all.  I’d turned the tables and broken the unspoken rule.  Girls don’t chase the boys.

Years passed, limbs lengthened and my body curved and rounded.  By age twelve, I was still enamored by the boys, though only a very few select ever caught my real attention.  It was in seventh grade that I honed in on the tall thirteen year old – the one that would become my first love – when he passed me a folded note on lined paper.  “Will you go to the dance with me?”

Back then, there was no filter.  No experience.  Just a full swan dive into raw emotion and bubbling hormones.  A blend so potent that I would sometimes be rendered incapacitated in feeling.  If my boyfriend and I had reached some impasse in our junior high school relationship, I’d fake sick and stay home, listening to A-ha’s “Take on Me”, repeatedly, and cry.  These emotions were all new and overwhelming.  He and I, we’d eventually reconcile.  Fumble through the ancient human dance, our hearts beating and yearning in young and awkward bodies.

This love, this pull, it was always at my center.  Nothing seemed more important.  So when this junior high boyfriend had gotten in such big trouble with his parents that they forbid him to see any of his friends, I was heartbroken.  And determined.  I would dress in all black in the middle of the night and sneak my twelve-year-old body out my bedroom window.  With every passing car, I’d dive into the nearest bush to hide, then emerge when the coast was clear and run through dark suburbia towards his house.

Looking back, I wonder what it was that compelled me.  Certainly none of my other girl friends were running across town in the middle of the night to see a boy.  None of my friends even had boyfriends, really.  Pheromones played a part, I’m sure, but it was more than biology that drove me.  I felt the intrigue of love.  My young and unrefined version of it.  It was my greatest interest, and remained that way all through high school, as this first love and I stayed together (even got engaged) until I was nineteen.

By the age of twenty-one, with a major break-up behind me,  I had come to determine that my fascination with relationship was an innate weakness to be overcome.  With enough will-power I was convinced I could rid myself of this affliction.  Hawking my old diamond ring, I set out to travel solo, swearing off pairs and seeking a power of my own.  Some animals mate for life, genetically wired to couple.  I wanted to see if I could circumvent biology.  Feel the strength of being singular.  Finally quell the driving desire for relationship.  See if I could actually feel like I didn’t want to be in love.

In retrospect, it seems that summer launched a mission to fly in the face of my very nature.  It spawned a decade of traveling continents alone:  Canada, India, and an island chain.  During this time I’ve scaled literal and metaphorical peaks, all on my own.  But I’m getting old and weathered now.  I’ve got much less to prove.  No need to swim against my own tide.  Days will continue to dwindle and I might as well be honest.  I’ve never not wanted to be in love.

And though my heart has been trampled to the point where I wondered if it ever would resume a normal rate, I can’t seem to give up my quest.  Love is woven through my DNA, impossible to be disentangled from its strands.  The mission to explore relation, to experience connection, is somehow why I’m here.

I may have plenty of flaws – I let the dirty dishes pile, I sometimes get way too serious – but my ability to feel deeply, my desire to know true love intimately, is not a defect.  The drive of my impulse was there on the playground with that bold, seven-year old kiss.  It was in me hiding from headlights in the oleander hedge at midnight.  My determination was even present in my solo ventures, seeking to experience love with my own heart and the world around me.

And just like basil grows thick in Mary’s fertile garden.  Truth is simple.  I might as well just admit it.  I may still be learning – the mission not yet accomplished – but the fact remains.  I’m a lover.